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My Father, My Mother, My Brother

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Well the cancer won and one month later I lost my big brother to colon cancer. Once again I was devastated. His death affected me terribly but I knew I had to pick up the pieces and go on. I still had my mother and my niece (my brother's precious little girl who was only 6 years old.) Things were ok for about six months until my mother had breast cancer for the second time.

It was five years since the first time and she was considered cancer free. This started a whole new process of her health beginning to go downward. After this diagnosis she began having all sorts of problems from blood clots in her lungs to a foot infection which really took a toll on her. She became sick again in January of this year and the doctors thought she had another blood clot but she didn't. I asked if it could be her gall bladder and they said no even though she had a history of gall stones. In April, she had a gall bladder attack but they didn't want to operate because of her liver and lung problems.

Sadly, she went into liver and kidney failure in June but she came around and was getting ready to be discharged from the hospital when she suddenly took a turn for the worse. She was lucid the whole time and refused to go back on the respirator. She wanted to come home. The doctor told her she would die if she went home but she didn't want to live on a respirator. So we brought her home that Monday at 11 a.m. and she died peacefully in her own bed a couple of hours later.

I miss her so much. She was only 70 years old and still had alot of living to do. I still can't believe she's gone. It's so hard to look at any of their pictures without crying. My father was also only 70 when he died and my brother had just celebrated his 43rd birthday. I still miss my father and brother. I guess you never get over the deaths of someone so close. I will always miss them.

I am the youngest of four children, born in NJ but grew up in NY. I graduated from high school and have been working on the same job for thirty years.

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